Do You Get What's Coming to You?

     

For two solid months, from mid-September to mid-November, I woke up every single morning with the words of the same song playing over and over through my mind:

“Oh Father won’t You forgive them

They don’t know what they’ve been doing.”

     The Holy Spirit has not only been speaking to me, but faithfully reminding and encouraging me in this area, holding before me the example of Jesus as He hung dying on the cross. Here is the first verse and chorus of the song, titled “Losing” by Tenth Avenue North:

I can’t believe what she said

I can’t believe what he did

Oh, don’t they know it’s wrong?

Maybe there’s something I missed

But how could they treat me like this?

It’s wearing out my heart

The way they disregard

This is love, this is hate…

We all have a choice to make

Oh Father won’t You forgive them

They don’t know what they’ve been doing

Oh, Father, give me the grace to forgive them…

     “Give me the grace…” But what IS grace?

     Somehow we’ve acquired the idea that grace is some kind of intangible virtue expressed through personal poise and decorum. This is a misunderstanding of what “grace” means in the Bible!

     The “grace” of the New Testament is articulated by the Greek word charis, from which we derive our English word “charity”. It is best understood in an active sense: as being proactively charitable towards another. In terms of God’s grace towards us, it literally means “a proactive favor that we do not deserve, acting in and upon our lives”.

     Grace is not some kind of nebulous, esoteric abstraction that God gives us in some intangible way! God’s grace is an active force working to produce undeserved favor on, in and through our lives. It works in three ways:

1.      Psalm 103:10 tells us that God does not treat us as our sins deserve or repay us according to our iniquities. Scripture tells us that God views jealousy, bitterness, slander, and gossip (to name a few) as just as sinful as murder and immorality. We can never claim the moral high ground before Him! What we see as our own “righteousness” is little more than filthy rags to Him. The expression “filthy rags” refers to what in that culture was considered to be the most disgusting uncleanness. This means that every last one of us deserves nothing less than God’s punishment for wrongdoing that is disgusting to Him!

     Yet instead God’s proactive and forceful favor – favor we do not deserve – goes to work in both taking that punishment on Himself, and lavishing on us His favor, bestowing His own unblemished righteousness on us as a free gift.

     At the very point of this grace in action, as Jesus was pouring His life out for the sake of humanity, His gift of grace was met with contempt, disdain and mockery by His onlookers. Yet rather than retaliating in judgment, He spoke those timeless words of undeserved favor upon His tormentors: “Father forgive them, they know not what they do.”

     Just when we most deserve His judgment for all our "uglies", God responds favorably towards us with His grace and forgiveness: the power of undeserved favor He pours out upon our lives!

2.      God’s grace additionally works in our lives, as an active force enabling and empowering us to go through trial, heartache, and opposition in strength and victory. In 2 Corinthians 9:8, Paul tells the believers, “God is able to make all grace abound to you…” “Abound” means that this favor never runs out, but keeps being replenished, over and over. Three chapters later, in sharing a deep struggle of his own, Paul says that God told him, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in (your) weakness” (2 Cor. 12:9). Here God’s grace works as an enabling power, giving us His strength to proactively engage our most difficult experiences in favorable ways!

3.      We are recipients of the lavish, undeserved favor of God! And yet… how do we respond when in turn somebody hurts or offends us, is hostile or malicious or mean-spirited or rude towards us, betrays or slanders us…? While we are only too grateful for the grace of God extended to ourselves, are we simultaneously guilty of wanting others to “pay” for their "uglies" – or at least acknowledge their wrong and “stand corrected”? 
     The grace God gives us is not only intended as a gift to be received. As recipients of the abundance of His grace poured out into our lives, we are simultaneously empowered to in turn give what we have received: Grace, spilling from our lives into the lives of others. Grace to those who don’t “deserve” it; grace as a force for good, given freely from our grace-filled hearts into our most difficult relationships and encounters. 
     Often the most “difficult” people are those whose hearts most cry out for grace. Why not give it away, since God has so generously given it to us when we did not deserve it? This is the grace of God working through us to others. We don't have to wait until we're "feeling it" before we respond this way: when we choose this by an act of our will, the enabling grace of God is activated to come alongside with His strength to release His grace through us.

     In just a few weeks we will be celebrating the birth of a baby born as the greatest gift of God’s grace to you and I: God Himself, who took on human flesh, just so that He could personally bear the punishment, in our place, that our sins deserve.

     As we consider what gifts to give one another in celebration of this event, can we open our hearts to give what He has so freely given us? Gifts of grace, poured into the lives of others who don't "deserve" it, in forgiveness and kindness, out of a generosity of spirit that reflects the character of the One who gave Himself for us. Jesus said, "Freely you have received, freely give" (Matt. 10:8).

     It is ourselves we rob, when we withhold this. We cannot have a closed heart towards others, while maintaining an open heart toward God. When we close our hearts to another, we close God out also, and rob ourselves of intimate fellowship with Him. When we do open our hearts to Him, we hear His voice clearly telling us to walk in the love, compassion, and forgiveness we ourselves have so generously received from Him. Additionally, to choose to be instruments of grace, is to choose personal growth and deepening maturity. Conversely, holding out stunts our personal growth, and keeps us trapped in immature patterns.

     This alternative is further sobering, as expressed in Matthew 18 and many other New Testament passages: To the extent that we withhold these things from others, God will withhold them from us; to the extent we criticize and judge others, God will judge us. But to the extent that we freely give to others, God will give to us, pressed down, shaken together and running over (Luke 6:38).

     I pray that as we remember God’s greatest gift of grace to humanity, the active grace of God will be poured out afresh in each of our lives in proactive power that will transform hearts, interactions, and relationships. And as His grace is poured out in abundance, may we each become powerful instruments of His grace into the lives of others who, just like us, are also treasured by God.