For two solid months, from mid-September
to mid-November, I woke up every single morning with the words of the same song
playing over and over through my mind:
“Oh Father won’t You forgive them
They don’t know what they’ve been
doing.”
The
Holy Spirit has not only been speaking to me, but faithfully reminding and
encouraging me in this area, holding before me the example of Jesus as He hung
dying on the cross. Here is the first verse and chorus of the song, titled
“Losing” by Tenth Avenue North:
I can’t believe what she said
I can’t believe what he did
Oh, don’t they know it’s wrong?
Maybe there’s something I missed
But how could they treat me like
this?
It’s wearing out my heart
The way they disregard
This is love, this is hate…
We all have a choice to make
Oh Father won’t You forgive them
They don’t know what they’ve been
doing
Oh, Father, give me the grace to
forgive them…
“Give me the grace…” But what IS grace?
Somehow we’ve acquired the idea that grace
is some kind of intangible virtue expressed through personal poise and decorum.
This is a misunderstanding of what “grace” means in the Bible!
The “grace” of the New Testament is
articulated by the Greek word charis,
from which we derive our English word “charity”. It is best understood in an
active sense: as being proactively charitable towards another. In terms of
God’s grace towards us, it literally means “a proactive favor that we do not
deserve, acting in and upon our lives”.
Grace is not some kind of nebulous,
esoteric abstraction that God gives us in some intangible way! God’s grace is
an active force working to produce undeserved favor on, in and through our
lives. It works in three ways:
1.
Psalm 103:10 tells us that God does not treat us as our sins deserve or
repay us according to our iniquities. Scripture tells us that God views
jealousy, bitterness, slander, and gossip (to name a few) as just as sinful as
murder and immorality. We can never claim the moral high ground before Him! What
we see as our own “righteousness” is little more than filthy rags to Him. The
expression “filthy rags” refers to what in that culture was considered to be
the most disgusting uncleanness. This means that every last one of us deserves
nothing less than God’s punishment for wrongdoing that is disgusting to Him!
Yet instead God’s proactive and forceful
favor – favor we do not deserve – goes to work in both taking that punishment
on Himself, and lavishing on us His favor, bestowing His own unblemished
righteousness on us as a free gift.
At the very point of this grace in action,
as Jesus was pouring His life out for the sake of humanity, His gift of grace
was met with contempt, disdain and mockery by His onlookers. Yet rather than
retaliating in judgment, He spoke those timeless words of undeserved favor upon
His tormentors: “Father forgive them,
they know not what they do.”
Just when we most deserve His judgment for all our "uglies", God responds
favorably towards us with His grace and forgiveness: the power of undeserved
favor He pours out upon our
lives!
2.
God’s grace additionally works in our lives, as an active force
enabling and empowering us to go through trial, heartache, and opposition in
strength and victory. In 2 Corinthians 9:8, Paul tells the believers, “God is able to make all grace abound to
you…” “Abound” means that this favor never runs out, but keeps being
replenished, over and over. Three chapters later, in sharing a deep struggle of
his own, Paul says that God told him, “My
grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in (your) weakness” (2
Cor. 12:9). Here God’s grace works as an enabling power, giving us His strength
to proactively engage our most difficult experiences in favorable ways!
3.
We are recipients of the lavish,
undeserved favor of God! And yet… how do we respond when in turn somebody hurts or offends us, is hostile or malicious or mean-spirited or rude towards us, betrays or slanders us…?
While we are only too grateful for the grace of God extended to ourselves, are we simultaneously guilty
of wanting others to “pay” for their "uglies" – or at least
acknowledge their wrong and “stand corrected”?
The grace God gives us is not only intended as a gift to be received. As recipients of the abundance of His grace poured out into our lives, we are simultaneously empowered to in turn give what we have received: Grace, spilling from our lives into the lives of others. Grace to those who don’t “deserve” it; grace as a force for good, given freely from our grace-filled hearts into our most difficult relationships and encounters.
Often the most “difficult” people are those whose hearts most cry out for grace. Why not give it away, since God has so generously given it to us when we did not deserve it? This is the grace of God working through us to others. We don't have to wait until we're "feeling it" before we respond this way: when we choose this by an act of our will, the enabling grace of God is activated to come alongside with His strength to release His grace through us.
The grace God gives us is not only intended as a gift to be received. As recipients of the abundance of His grace poured out into our lives, we are simultaneously empowered to in turn give what we have received: Grace, spilling from our lives into the lives of others. Grace to those who don’t “deserve” it; grace as a force for good, given freely from our grace-filled hearts into our most difficult relationships and encounters.
Often the most “difficult” people are those whose hearts most cry out for grace. Why not give it away, since God has so generously given it to us when we did not deserve it? This is the grace of God working through us to others. We don't have to wait until we're "feeling it" before we respond this way: when we choose this by an act of our will, the enabling grace of God is activated to come alongside with His strength to release His grace through us.
In just a few weeks we will be celebrating the birth of a baby born as
the greatest gift of God’s grace to you and I: God Himself, who took on human
flesh, just so that He could personally bear the punishment, in our place, that
our sins deserve.
As we consider what gifts to give one another in celebration of this
event, can we open our hearts to give what He has so freely given us? Gifts of
grace, poured into the lives of others who don't "deserve" it, in forgiveness and kindness, out of a generosity of spirit that reflects the character of the
One who gave Himself for us. Jesus said, "Freely you have received, freely give" (Matt. 10:8).
It is ourselves we rob, when we withhold this. We cannot have a closed
heart towards others, while maintaining an open heart toward God. When we close
our hearts to another, we close God out also, and rob ourselves of intimate fellowship with Him. When we do
open our hearts to Him, we hear His voice clearly telling us to walk in the
love, compassion, and forgiveness we ourselves have so generously received from Him. Additionally, to choose to be instruments of grace, is to choose personal growth and deepening maturity. Conversely, holding out stunts our personal growth, and keeps us trapped in immature patterns.
This alternative is further sobering, as expressed in Matthew 18 and many other
New Testament passages: To the extent that we withhold these things from
others, God will withhold them from us; to the extent we criticize and judge
others, God will judge us. But to the extent that we freely give to others, God
will give to us, pressed down, shaken
together and running over (Luke 6:38).
I pray that as we remember God’s greatest gift of grace to humanity, the
active grace of God will be poured out afresh in each of our lives in proactive
power that will transform hearts, interactions, and relationships. And as His
grace is poured out in abundance, may we each become powerful instruments of
His grace into the lives of others who, just like us, are also treasured by God.